• DamarcusArt@lemmygrad.ml
    52·
    4 months ago

    When I had braces as a kid, my mum would hit me with a wooden spoon in the mouth, because the braces would cut my cheeks and wouldn’t leave a visible mark. Corporal punishment is never about punishment, it’s about cruelty and adults unable to control their temper and violent impulses towards those who can’t fight back.

  • SovereignState@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
    25·
    4 months ago

    I got whooped as a kid and I turned out alright!

    (THE DEMONS IN MY BRAIN YEARN FOR ESCAPE. AHHHGAGAHAHEHEHHFFUCKKKK)

    Yeah, I turned out alright.

  • queermunist she/her@lemmy.ml
    25·
    4 months ago

    I’m 32 fucking years old and I still don’t know how to cope with panic attacks without yelling at or hitting things. It’s humiliating.

    And in hindsight I’m pretty sure Dad was the exact same way. Just passed down the family.

    • D61 [any]@hexbear.netEnglish
      13·
      4 months ago

      As a person who’s father had some anger management issues and I’m pretty sure some of that I inherited/learned as a kid, this isn’t exactly what most people mean by corporal punishment.

      Though, if we were in a position where we’d get to decide on applying corporal punishment and what that would look like, depending on our mood it would definitely not make things better.

  • Giyuu@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
    23·
    4 months ago

    Hate it. Pretty sure its why I dont like to be touched, or be physically close, hugs, etc., among other things I struggle with, like mental health.

  • relay@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
    23·
    4 months ago

    I think Corporals need to get punished if they break the rules. People of higher ranks need to be held accountable to the rules just like lower rank soldiers. I’m in favor of general punishment as well.

  • keepcarrot [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    20·
    4 months ago

    Researchwise, it can be as effective as other disciplinary choices in preventing behaviour but has a higher chance of trauma, hatred of parents etc. So there’s no real reason to keep it in a parents toolbox. Ethically, no. Kids are still people, just inexperienced and vulnerable and largely unable to care for themselves. If you consider other people who fill that category, we don’t want to build a society where we treat those people like that.

    Reflecting on the circumstances where corporal punishment was meted out to me and other kids I knew, it was usually when a parent was disrespected or humiliated by their child, or the parent was in a tense situation and angered by the child somehow. This sort of reactive behaviour is not what you’d want even if you did believe corporal punishment was valid.

    My ideal model of parenting is where the community raises a child and the onus is less on an individual parent but rather the community. This would also mean (possibly) that a child is less of a source of pride and denigration to one parent, reducing a source of that reactive behaviour.

    • SadArtemis@lemmygrad.ml
      11·
      4 months ago

      it was usually when a parent was disrespected or humiliated by their child, or the parent was in a tense situation and angered by the child somehow. This sort of reactive behaviour is not what you’d want even if you did believe corporal punishment was valid

      This, so much this- either that, or they’d just be taking out their frustrations from life on their kids. A lot of people do that.

      My ideal model of parenting is where the community raises a child and the onus is less on an individual parent but rather the community. This would also mean (possibly) that a child is less of a source of pride and denigration to one parent, reducing a source of that reactive behaviour.

      Marx’s call for the abolition of the bourgeois family comes to mind. Children all too often are still treated as property, and exploited, abused, and controlled as such, even in the west.