Iraglassceiling [she/her]

2 grand?? That seems like a lot even for the ER. Lemme see if I can guess…

Exam fee -$110-150 Diagnostics: (X-rays?) Blood work -$300-500 Treatments: Full anesthesia - $600-800 Laceration repair - $400-600 Hospitalization overnight - $300-400 (Iv fluids overnight? Iv pain medication overnight?) Meds to go home: $150-200

You need to dumb it down a bit if you want me to understand

You can’t set me up like that, I’m tapping out. Someone else explain basic human decency to this person, plz.

I’ve asked what the pearl clutching itself accomplishes.

Have you asked the same question about your disingenuous hand wringing? 🤔

Is pineapple good on pizza? <— a debate

Are human rights guaranteed to all humans? <— a fucking ghoulish question that you deserve to be mocked for “debating”

B-but I just want to have a civil debate about why genocide is ok, why won’t anyone be nice to me? Wyahhhhh, such toxicity! People are so small minded if they can’t accept ethnic cleansing :(

It’s because you’re so speshul. I actually have your picture on my wall.

Sugar addiction is not the same as a drug that causes physiologic dependence, like cocaine or opiates.

But

You can become addicted to sugar, or anything that makes you feel good, because you’re basically hacking into the cocaine repository that’s already in your brain. Anything that triggers a hit of dopamine and/or noradrenaline - gambling, shopping, sex, food, weed - can cause addictive behavior, but you’re essentially addicted to your own neurotransmitters and not the thing itself.

I had honestly forgotten about EverQuest. That sexy blonde elf minx takes me back.

I looked up the AGP in women paper and the methodology is unfortunately poor IMO.

A questionnaire that included the ASW was distributed to a sample of 51 professional women employed at an urban hospital; 29 completed questionnaires were returned for analysis. By the common definition of ever having erotic arousal to the thought or image of oneself as a woman, 93% of the respondents would be classified as autogynephilic.

They needed a bigger sample size than 29 and they didn’t address the self selection bias of the 29 out of 51 respondents.

The conclusions might be right? But they might also be wrong, the paper itself seems pretty flimsy :/

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19591032/

The original AGP research is probably fucked too, but I’m not diving into a stupid paper from 1989 to learn what I already know about the quality of gender research in the 80s.

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Nooooooooooooooooooooooooo

When your illness starts being more performance than illness it’s time to take a step back and ask if you’re performing for yourself or for someone else. And why.

You are mistaken about the origin of the term. Vigilantes are gross, but malingerers also do real, tangible harm to people who have to contend with the medical system and the term “spoonie” is certainly overused by a certain kind of bad faith actor in the CI community.

I don’t have a mental illness, I have a physical illness that causes me a lot of pain. I think the confusion here is partly my fault for not saying so at the outset.

I clearly have weird hang ups about it all. I can’t pretend I’m “right” to cringe at spoonies but they do make me uncomfy for the reasons I tried to outlined.

I just want to jump back in and clear up something: I am not talking about autism. I don’t honestly feel that the term spoonie as it originally was developed applies to people with autism/autistics, I always understood it to be a measure of physical illness. (If you want to use it for your neurodiversity you are welcome to do so, but then you’re not who I’m talking about when I talk about spoonies.)

I am in constant physical pain. There is no social model for my disability. I am in agony.

Also yes 100% to your second paragraph, exactly that.

You were rude to assume that I am making any statements about neurodivergency at all.

Spoonie was originally a term to describe physical illness.

I am in constant physical pain.

That is not the same as being autistic. There is no social model for my disability. I am in agony.

I am enraged that you make false statements about my illness.

Person first language examples and why to use them

I understand that not everyone practices person first language, but I personally find it to be preferable to making my illness equivalent to my personhood.

Ok, what I’m talking about is people who engage in illness Olympics and endless one-upsmanship because their symptoms are their identity. I am allowed to be exhausted by people who belittle my experience as a chronically ill person with a multidimensional life.

Weird wefwef error

I feel like when the idea was first introduced it was a helpful metaphor, but now it’s a weird token of victimhood? As a person active in the CI community when I meet someone who self identifies as a spoonie I roll my eyes and prepare to be exhausted.