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  • CantSt0pPoppin@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    Sorry four your loss, while her death may weigh heavy on you please be sure to take care of your self. While we can not control these things what we can do is put energy into the ones we love. As for your tumor what type of cancer is it if you don’t mind me asking my grandmother had cancer and it was hard on her but nowadays the treatments have improved much.

    Can you elaborate on her reasons for wanting a divorce have you considered meeting with a couples therapist? Sometimes in relationships it’s hard to be honest and transparent without a third party looking at the whole picture.

    Before going through such a thing just consider or ask her about it. The worse she can say is no. I hope things get better for you.

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      10 months ago

      I had a Spitz Nevis, which has the same appearance as an amelanotic melanoma, which in this stage would most likely have been spread in the whole body.

      I’ve insisted to go to a couples therapist and we did. From the beginning she said she’s only here to find out how to best manage the break-up. Nevertheless the therapist was optimistic that we could work this out. But she didn’t want to, even after weeks.

      I asked her a lot, as i’m a pretty openminded guy who can openly talk about bis feelings, fears and wishes. She is the opposite. The only thing i geht to hear is that she suddenly doesn’t love me any more and that she needed more help with the kids. As i said i have to work a lot. From the therapist i got informed, that she never learned to express her real feelings, that she’s still a child, which never learned to stand on her own feet and never accomplished anything in her life. And now she wants to grow up and become an adult und be independent. She’s 34, but now i understand that he was right…