A while ago I was kinda surprised that my attractions shifted predominantly towards men. I knew I was bi for years and was alright with that but, still was predominantly attracted to women. Then for the last couple of weeks my interest in women picked up. Now, I feel myself shifting interest to men again but, not as strongly as the last time.
I guess upon reflection, my growing romantic attraction to men is what probably drove the recent increase in my attraction to the same sex. That was a more recent development that happened in the last year when I tried browsing OLD sites again. I started looking at the men I saw as potential long term partners in a way I only thought about with women until that point.
Does anyone else deal with this too?
Edit: Sorry if the response time was a bit laggy, my shit was longer than usual today.
Yeah it’s called the bi-cycle, or bicycle. Very normal. For me it’s only my attraction in men that seems to shift a lot. Usually it’s kind of low, i’m not super interested in men but every now and then for a week or so i feel more attracted to men than women
It’s the same way for me.
I guess the concept is still new to me since I’ve never really felt such a significant shift over a short period of time. I used to get annoyed when I tried to talk about it with my mother, since she has such a static view of sexuality and attraction. I hate being told to “pick a side.” It doesn’t work like that exactly.
I used to be more into men but now I’m almost exclusively into women, I think it’s pretty normal to have your desires shift
pretty common among bi people, affectinately called the bi-cycle
ofc, some people don’t have it at all, and that’s fine too
The way I deal with it is by suffering childhood and ongoinig emotional abuse and never forming relationships
I feel for you. 🫂 Trying to sort through one’s sexuality is something that seems to run in my family, I guess. I hope I deal with it better than those that came before me.
Yes I get this with enbies and men, usually I have no clue what’s going on and just go with it.
Frequently. I have had periods of time where I am very into women- I’d say most of the time actually- but others where the idea of men is almost overwhelmingly alluring and this can come and go in any number of ways for any length of time. I just go with the flow. All of this is ultimately harmless I reckon so there’s no reason to stress about it.
Yeah, I don’t really have much to stress about compared to a year or so ago, though I’m still surprised how different I am in that regard compared to even a decade ago.
Yup, I experience this too. My bisexuality is weird and sometimes so subtle it makes me question if it’s really there, and other days men are what take up a lot of my thoughts. Sometimes I won’t be interested in guys for weeks and forget about it, it’s strange.
Yeah, it’s strange. I gotta just get more comfortable with the idea. I think it really started when I started taking a serious look at guys as potential romantic partners. Ever since then, I’ve had the same sort of romantic daydreams of sharing common interests and having fun doing couple stuff that I used to think about exclusively with regards to women.
